5 ways to practice self-love

5 ways to practice self-love

Ah Valentines Day! Whether you love it or loathe it, February the 14th is coming and whatever your relationship status – you’re going to know about it! In this weeks post, I’m not going to be focusing on whichever camp you fall into and celebrating (or not celebrating) the occasion but rather why we could instead all use the day as a reminder to spend some time on self-love. Yep, you read that correctly. Instead of spreading the love on others, why not spend the time and energy all on yourself? To clarify, self-love is “a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth” (Psychology, 2012).

Treat yo’ self
You might already be pretty good at this one (and it may be pretty obvious) but allowing yourself the pleasure of treating yourself every now and again, to something you really want, can feel pretty damn good. It might just be eating a big old bar of your favourite chocolate in the bath or perhaps splurging on something seriously luxurious like this gorgeous Gift Set For Her, but whatever it is, however small or large, soak up the entire act of it. If it’s food, savour each mouthful, if it’s a gift to yourself, embrace it, if it’s a sensation, squeeze out every drop you can.

Do something you’re good at
Boosting your self-esteem by participating in a hobby you enjoy and can do well is brilliant for increasing your endorphins and leaving you in a good mood. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling smug for winning a tennis match or baking some bloody good cookies. It’s time well spent on yourself to be left with that positive, exuberant feeling. And don’t even think of saying you aren’t good at something – there’s always something.

Set boundaries
Without even realising, it can be far too easy to take part in or agree to things that are actually harming you, whether that is physically or emotionally. Take the time to sit down and set limits for yourself. You might be taking on too much work or trying to resuscitate a toxic friendship but don’t be afraid to say no or to make changes to anything that is negatively impacting you. Sometimes we can get so caught up in life and the fast-paced nature of it, but by just pausing to evaluate and work out where and what is causing you unhappiness can make the world of difference.

Plan in some time
Look at your calendar or diary and schedule in some time (you can do this multiple times and as far ahead as you’d like) to do something for you and only you. Yes, you’re basically making an appointment with yourself and it might feel a bit silly but deliberately choosing to have a window of time where you do something for yourself – that you might not actually ever do normally – will allow you the chance to pay some attention to yourself and ultimately, give yourself a break. It’s completely up to you what you do with the time, just use it.

Be kind
Quite frankly, we could all do with giving ourselves a break from time to time. I’m sure I’m not alone when I berate myself for eating a whole bag of Cadbury Twirl Bites when I’m supposed to be watching my weight or for not ticking off every task on my to-do list that day. We’ve all been doing this for so long that it can be hard to change the way we speak to ourselves and adjust this to a nicer tone. One thing to try is to imagine you are instead talking to the child version of yourself. You would never talk so negatively to a child (at least I hope not!) so try and focus on that. Be reassuring, encouraging and gentle with yourself.

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Emily x

  • These are good suggestions amd I am an advocate for self-love and lretty much do these as well. I have no problem with Valentine’s Day, although we just do our own thing as a couple anyway, have fun! 🙂 xo/Madison

  • Love these! I am always a fan of treating myself haha (probably too much). I love the point about being kind. I totally get down on myself for finishing a bag of cookies or chips. I definitely need to be nicer to myself when I’ve had a rough day, or I just want a freaking pizza! These are some really great tips lady. 🙂

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

  • These are all lovely suggestions Emily! I’m such a fan of self-care, it truly does lead to a happier life. Doing things you’re good at to boost morale is excellent advice, and YES to being kind (and of course eating aaaaall the chocolate!) 😉

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  • Such nice ideas Emily! Thanks for sharing this lovely post! Gemma x

  • I personally don’t celebrate valentines day haha!
    Self care is such an important aspect for a happy life, and I try to do something that helps me relax at least twice a week. Treating myself to chocolate and binging my favourite tv show is my go-to, I probably do it a bit too much…

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  • I’ve never been a massive fan of Valentines Day – as long as my boyfriend gets me a card and some flowers I’ll be happy! 😛 Failing that, I will definitely be treating myself to something new! x

  • Setting boundaries and being kind are seriously two very important things when it comes to self-love. It’s something I really want to focus on this year!

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  • Self-love is so important. I always love posts like these. Treat yo’ self!

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  • So important, such good tips x
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  • So well said, love this! I am not the biggest fan of the day (never was and there is a million reasons why) but this day is about love – and love is everything. Be it self-love, kindness or even charity – Valentine’s should be more about doing good (and not just Hallmark cards and red teddy bears). Glad you shared this article! x

    • Emily

      Yes Naya! Completely agree. 🙂 x

  • These are the best 5 tips! You should always treat yourself and do things you very much enjoy xx


  • Self-love and self-care is super important! I’ve been working very hard lately and this is a post I really needed right now. Unsure why but, whenever I treat myself I just feel great afterwards :’)!. Loved this post and I loved it when you said “be gentle with yourself”. I think many of us (myself included) need to do this more often.
    Lots of love,
    Ramshaa Rose

  • Len Dela Peña Parent

    Amazing blog post! Love this! Thanks for sharing!
    Happy Thursday
    Much love, Len

  • Missy May

    Self love is very important and you couldn’t have been any right with these pointers. Thanks for reminding us Emily. I hope to have some time for myself this half term after a January of illnesses. Great post!


  • These are good tips! I found the last tip the most interesting, about thinking like we are talking to a younger version of ourselves. I’ve never heard that before, usually it’s the ‘think like you’re talking to your bestie’ so that was a different way to look at it and just as good! 🙂

    Hope that you are having a lovely weekend 🙂 We are having a relaxing one, much needed after a hectic week!

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