Finding my place

11th November 2017

I’ve been going through a bit of a thing with blogging lately. Not quite an epiphany but more of a realisation of what I want to do with my blog and what I want back in return. I think this is a really healthy internal conversation to undergo, even if it has taken me two years to get there.


As much as we all love and enjoy it, blogging comes with a lot of pressure. For me, I worry about the content I put up and whether people will want to read it or not. This is needed to some degree but at times, I think I can worry about it too much. I worry that a blog post talking about just one product isn’t enough so I try to find more. I worry that talking about books I love is boring so I don’t do it. I worry that list posts can look lazy so I don’t do them as much as I’d like to. You see my point? Rereading all that makes me realise how ridiculous I’m being. It’s my blog and I should post the kind of content that I like to read, regardless of what others may or may not like. At the end of the day, there are so many blogs out there that while a few people might not enjoy my content, there are plenty of others that will. The important thing is that I’m proud of what I’m producing.


I am never going to be a photographer. I enjoy taking photos sure and I get a buzz when I take a good one but I hate spending hours on photography for my blog. I am a writer through and through and that was ultimately the reason I started this blog: to write. I think along the way, I got swept up in creating what is seen as the perfect package and as a result, lost the essence of why I enjoy blogging so much. So going forward, I’m going to try to put less pressure on myself with my photography and perhaps stick to one or two decent images, with my words being my main focus.


I would love to be able to create fashion posts but you know what? It just ain’t gonna happen. I cannot pose naturally for the life of me and prefer the crutch of another person when photos are insisted upon in everyday life. To be perfectly honest, I only like photos of myself 2% of the time and to put photos of my mug on my blog would be simply torturous. I’m aware that this one is perhaps more of a self-confidence thing and is a whole other kettle of fish but regardless, it’s still something that makes me feel incredibly nervous. You’ll notice in this post I’ve actually (shock horror) included a photo of myself. You might be thinking:”Hey, you look fine, what are you chatting about?” But what you didn’t see is just how bloody long it took to get that single photo. How many versions before and after of that photo there are. How much I whined. Credit to all those fashion bloggers out there because hell I couldn’t do that every week. There’s been a lot of times that I’ve put myself down for not posting OOTDs, wondering if it’s damaging to my blog and my ‘brand’ (vom) but it’s simply not in my remit and that’s ok. And it is this I want to come to terms with. That it’s ok to not do stuff other bloggers are doing.

Social Media

My relationship with social media has always been a bit of a weird one. I was never quite sure what the ‘rules’ were and exactly how best to use it. To begin with, I’d use it purely to promote my blog, not really knowing how to interact with other bloggers and feeling weird just shouting out my opinion for it to then get swallowed up into the abyss. I’ve gradually learned that you aren’t going to get anything if you don’t give a little yourself. And it’s this what I want to do more of. I want to interact with other bloggers more. While I’m pretty happy with how I do this on other blogs themselves, I want to bring this to social media. I want to join in on Twitter chats and I want to like and comment on Instagram images rather than just thinking “that’s a nice photo!” then scrolling on. I also want to make a conscious effort with Instagram itself. It’s so easy to get frustrated with the algorithm to the point where I’d kind of given up but I want to learn how to make the most of the app, even when it’s not playing ball. While I don’t want to spend a long time taking photos, I still enjoy sharing them and there’s no better platform.

So that’s just a few things I’m aiming at tackling (or already doing s0). Are you happy with where you are at with blogging? What would you change? Realistically, as time goes on there will be more I learn and more I want to adapt or change. But that’s part of the fun right?

If you enjoyed this post, have a read of why I don’t want to blog full time.