Finding my place

I’ve been going through a bit of a thing with blogging lately. Not quite an epiphany but more of a realisation of what I want to do with my blog and what I want back in return. I think this is a really healthy internal conversation to undergo, even if it has taken me two years to get there.


As much as we all love and enjoy it, blogging comes with a lot of pressure. For me, I worry about the content I put up and whether people will want to read it or not. This is needed to some degree but at times, I think I can worry about it too much. I worry that a blog post talking about just one product isn’t enough so I try to find more. I worry that talking about books I love is boring so I don’t do it. I worry that list posts can look lazy so I don’t do them as much as I’d like to. You see my point? Rereading all that makes me realise how ridiculous I’m being. It’s my blog and I should post the kind of content that I like to read, regardless of what others may or may not like. At the end of the day, there are so many blogs out there that while a few people might not enjoy my content, there are plenty of others that will. The important thing is that I’m proud of what I’m producing.


I am never going to be a photographer. I enjoy taking photos sure and I get a buzz when I take a good one but I hate spending hours on photography for my blog. I am a writer through and through and that was ultimately the reason I started this blog: to write. I think along the way, I got swept up in creating what is seen as the perfect package and as a result, lost the essence of why I enjoy blogging so much. So going forward, I’m going to try to put less pressure on myself with my photography and perhaps stick to one or two decent images, with my words being my main focus.


I would love to be able to create fashion posts but you know what? It just ain’t gonna happen. I cannot pose naturally for the life of me and prefer the crutch of another person when photos are insisted upon in everyday life. To be perfectly honest, I only like photos of myself 2% of the time and to put photos of my mug on my blog would be simply torturous. I’m aware that this one is perhaps more of a self-confidence thing and is a whole other kettle of fish but regardless, it’s still something that makes me feel incredibly nervous. You’ll notice in this post I’ve actually (shock horror) included a photo of myself. You might be thinking:”Hey, you look fine, what are you chatting about?” But what you didn’t see is just how bloody long it took to get that single photo. How many versions before and after of that photo there are. How much I whined. Credit to all those fashion bloggers out there because hell I couldn’t do that every week. There’s been a lot of times that I’ve put myself down for not posting OOTDs, wondering if it’s damaging to my blog and my ‘brand’ (vom) but it’s simply not in my remit and that’s ok. And it is this I want to come to terms with. That it’s ok to not do stuff other bloggers are doing.

Social Media

My relationship with social media has always been a bit of a weird one. I was never quite sure what the ‘rules’ were and exactly how best to use it. To begin with, I’d use it purely to promote my blog, not really knowing how to interact with other bloggers and feeling weird just shouting out my opinion for it to then get swallowed up into the abyss. I’ve gradually learned that you aren’t going to get anything if you don’t give a little yourself. And it’s this what I want to do more of. I want to interact with other bloggers more. While I’m pretty happy with how I do this on other blogs themselves, I want to bring this to social media. I want to join in on Twitter chats and I want to like and comment on Instagram images rather than just thinking “that’s a nice photo!” then scrolling on. I also want to make a conscious effort with Instagram itself. It’s so easy to get frustrated with the algorithm to the point where I’d kind of given up but I want to learn how to make the most of the app, even when it’s not playing ball. While I don’t want to spend a long time taking photos, I still enjoy sharing them and there’s no better platform.

So that’s just a few things I’m aiming at tackling (or already doing s0). Are you happy with where you are at with blogging? What would you change? Realistically, as time goes on there will be more I learn and more I want to adapt or change. But that’s part of the fun right?

If you enjoyed this post, have a read of why I don’t want to blog full time. 

Emily x

  • What a nicr outfit and interesting post!

  • Marisa Cavaleiro

    My problem with my blog is that i live in a small city and every thing happens in big cities so is dificult to me to know other bloggers and i like to know them.
    Xoxo from Portugal

  • As for me, I sometimes find it difficult delivering product reviews right when products get released. Here in Dubai we receive new collections kind of late, so by the time I am here chatting about something, rest of the Wolrd moved on lol But what I did not realize – my readers still wanted “my” two cents. So don’t be discouraged! I am sure you’re on a right track xx

    • Emily

      Very good point Naya, we all have something different to offer at the end of the day! x

  • Zorica
  • Love this post Em! I can relate to a lot of this stuff. For me, I just will never be into fashion photos/posts. It’s just not me! My boyfriend is always saying how he thinks I could have so many more followers if I posted more of myself or my outfits, but I just can’t come to do it. It’s just so boring to me! In regards to photography, I totally get where you are coming from being a writer. It sucks because people are so visual. But I do agree that if you have really good content, no one is going to care. Like I’ve seen blogs that look like they were designed in the 90’s, but the content is what people love them for. It’s hard to achieve, but you can do it! Just know that I think as bloggers we’ve all struggled with this stuff before. At the end of the day you’re writing for you, and you need to be happy in order to continue. Or you’ll just burn yourself out trying to please your readers. Good luck lady!


    • Emily

      Love this! You are totally right. 🙂

  • I can relate to so much of what you wrote! I have struggled so much with finding my place during my first year of blogging. I also can’t pose for the life of me haha I’m so awkward! I hope you continue to post what you love 🙂

  • It’s always interesting to hear how others are feeling about blogging, and I hope your realisations have made you feel more comfortable with the direction yours is going in Emily! Personally, I hugely enjoy reading your blog and seeing your posts pop up on my social media feeds, because you’re so lovely, warm and your posts always have a cosy feel to them 🙂

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

    • Emily

      Thank you Gabrielle, that’s so lovely to hear! That’s made my morning. 🙂 x

  • sometimes it’s hard to have this conversation with yourself with all those darn guides that tell you, this is what you have to do to be a successful blogger! it’s a little bit ridiculous tbh, since success is defined differently for everyone. i’m kind of getting tired of seeing the same photography tips and the same post consistently tips tbh.

    i also kind of hate that social media is so curated now? the other day my bff took and uploaded a picture within a minute and it just shocked me because i’ve forgotten when the last time i did that was. i don’t really promote my blog often on instagram, but i enjoy taking a few minutes out to comment on other people’s posts. most of the time people will notice (i know i certainly do) and i feel inclined to form a sort of community on there if it makes sense. it’s nice because it’s a genuine way of engagement!

    becky @ star violet

    • Emily

      100% agree Becky! I’m trying to balance out gaining engagement on the likes of Instagram with people genuinely wanting to interact with my feed so I’ll always try to take the time out to comment or like a great pic! x

  • You are defintely not alone when it comes to these worries and concerns girl! The truth is that we all forget that this should be fun and to just be ourselves and put out what content we wantto put up because although we may not feel like it’s something everyone will enjoy, there are always going to be people out there who love it. Just keep doing you and you’ll be great as you are girl!


    • Emily

      Thank you Stacey, that’s very true. 🙂 x

  • Great post, I think every blogger has this kind of thoughts, I know I do 🙂 And that is a lovely photo of you and I love your outfit. I really enjoy your blog and I would like to see more pics of you haha. Have a great day! Gemma x

    • Emily

      Thank you Jacquard! That’s really love to hear. 🙂 x

  • I think being able to connect with other bloggers is remarkably important. It is an exchange relationship where passion, art, interest and connection meets. Good luck with your blogs love.

    StyleSprinter Blog by Katya Bychkova

  • I feel akin to so many things you’ve shared. Let’s follow each other on Insta and I’ll invite you to my boost group. I think you might like it. Its a few girls who boost each other’s contents/posts.

    Chanel | Je M’appelle Chanel

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  • Missy May

    This is a good conversation and I’ve had it with myself many times, but honestly it stressed me up. So I decided to post what I want and have fun with it. My blog was born through and as part of a University module really so I had no clue at first. Poor picture qualities and all the jazz, but I’m happy about the growth throughout the years. In a nutshell, I’m okay where I am, but wanna grow of course.
    You’re doing a great job! I love when I see photos of you. You’re beautiful Emily. 🙂

    • Emily

      Awww thank you Missy! That’s so lovely! <3

  • This is a good conversation and one I’ve been putting off for so long! I just end up taking long unannounced breaks and stress over it. But no more! This weekend, I intend to give myself a serious internal monologue about how I’ll handle my blog moving forward.

    xx, Richel V. |

    • Emily

      Good plan Richel! I thoroughly recommend it. xx

  • I’ve been thinking about this a lot myself lately. Last year I was going to the opening of an envelope to get my blog out there and seemed to be blogging about anything and everything. The last few months I’ve started to narrow down my Lifestyle blog to feature travel, food and fashion. Like you, I hate posing for pictures. I like to think I’m good at taking photos of others but I always feel awkward. I try and put a pic of me in every four or fifth pic on IG so people can connect with me as ‘my brand’…I’ve tried to up my IG game recently too and happy to comment swap to help each other out xxx