Ten things I’d tell my younger self

Yep, that’s me. Not twelve, but you get the idea.

Growing up is hard. Like, really hard. I remember occasionally wishing that I could be young and care free again but when I think about it, there was definitely a lot about childhood I wouldn’t want to relieve again. Like that unsure, almost awkward stage. I found myself caught in a daze recently, wondering, if I had the power to, what I would reassure myself when I was child. How nice it would be to calm my panicky self with a few words about how everything is going to work out.

And naturally, I decided to share that with you lovely lot! So here are ten things I wish I could tell my younger self at twelve years old…

1) Be grateful. You are so bloody lucky. You are surrounded by people that love you, even if you don’t realise it. If you fell, you’d be caught. But other than this, you are alive. You are breathing. You have all your limbs and food and water. Experiences and opportunities are offered frequently to you. Take the time to appreciate all of this as there are so many others without.

2) Stand up for what you believe in, there will be times where you bite your tongue for fear of confrontation but you will regret keeping your mouth closed when you believe so strongly in something. Remember that everyone has the right to an opinion but you have the right to stand up for yours.

3) You are not interested in ‘love’ or having a boyfriend and that is ok. You will wonder if you should be more bothered as you hear tales on the playground of ‘dates’ to the park. You are right not to care because one day, when you are eighteen, you will meet the love of your life and ask yourself how you got so lucky. You will go on to buy a lovely little house together and even have your own sweet, sausage dog!

4) Your will loathe your first year in secondary school. You will hate going and even be a little bullied, feeling more alone than you have ever before. But then in Year 8, you will move to another school where you will make a group of friends that will be with your for life, in some form or other. You will make so many memories together and although sometimes distance will get in the way, you always make it work.

5) Naturally, your parents divorce will be difficult. You will despair a little bit and worry quite a lot but as bad as everything seems, everything will work out in the end. Things won’t be too awkward and you’ll get two of pretty much everything, so that’s pretty cool! You’ll also gain extra family members who while you are unsure of at first, you won’t be able to imagine life without.

6) You do so many hobbies and classes. Ballet, horse-riding, swimming…don’t give these up. When you grow up, you will wish you kept on at these hobbies and they will be hard to return to. Even learn a musical instrument. Future you always wishes she could play the piano and make beautiful, moving music.

7) You will grow up with stories and books aplenty which makes you fall in love with words and writing. You will write multiple ‘novels’ on your computer, determined to one day be an author. While you won’t quite do this (yet), you will study Journalism at University and end up landing a job you never could have dreamed of.

8) Your a fairly decent person but that doesn’t mean you can’t always be better. Strive to be the best version of yourself as much as you can. You will have thoughts that surprise you and feelings that make you feel guilty at times but you are not perfect and you never will be but be kind and honest to yourself and others as much as you can. Treat yourself well, both inside and out. And perhaps don’t eat as much of the bad stuff eh? It won’t make you happy.

9) Be curious about everything. Try new things, be afraid but fight it and challenge yourself. You can’t do everything but you can try.

10) Everything will be ok. You will go through moments where you despair and wonder how things will ever get better but they do, as is the complexity of life. This too shall pass.

So there we have it! When writing this post, I do appreciate that if we knew everything that would happen to us, in a way it would be too much to bear and frankly, rather boring. That said, I found this really fascinating to put together and I’d be interested to do more of this, providing you all enjoy it!

I’d really love it if you could take a moment and tell me just one thing you’d tell your younger self, down in the comments! I look forward to reading them!

Emily x

  • Amazing advice. I still have to remember these things nowadays! πŸ™‚

  • This was so lovely to read. It's too bad we couldn't actually talk to our younger selves eh? I would definitely tell my younger self not to be so shy. To get out there and not let the thought of what other people might think of me stop me from doing the things I want.

    Renee | Life After Lux

  • How lovely ! This is a beautiful way to reflect πŸ™‚ I think I would tell myself to keep going and to move forward there is no need to be around negative people they're toxic πŸ™‚

    lots of love, Marianne xxx


  • I think we all sometimes think about the things we would love to tell to our younger selves if we could. But would we really be the person we are now if we knew all of this? Not to get too deep, haha, I will only say that it's nice to think of things we wish we knew but maybe it's perfectly okay to just the life do its own thing. Anyways, I would probably love to tell my younger self that it's fine to be yourself and to be your own person. You don't have to pretend someone you are not and try to fit in if that's not what your heart wants πŸ™‚

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

  • I love this post it was so interesting to read, there are definitely a few things I'd tell my younger self!

    Lauren Ashleigh xx

  • You always have such great and teaching post! xo, Sophia from http://www.sistersandglitters.com

  • Great post! I can remember feeling scared of a lot of things when I was a kid and I do wish I could go back in time and tell myself not to be! x

    Kate Louise Blogs

  • Amazing advice, I love thinking about what I would tell my younger self…

    Lauren x | http://www.huggled.co.uk/

  • Aw I really like this post! 2 and 6 really stand out to me. Now I speak up, but sometimes I still fear confrontation. I kept my mouth shut as a kid for so long though! And I tried soooo many things as a kid that I gave up on, and there were so many things that I didn't get to try that I really wanted to. Now that I'm older I wish I had just stuck with something and been really good at it. Number 3 made me laugh so hard about the sausage dog haha.

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

  • Emily, this was absolutely beautiful! I could relate to all of them! I think we should all do a post like this. Things I once worried about, I do no more and chuckle about it. I'm glad you shared yours. It will help someone else.

  • I love this post and can completely relate to having so many hobbies and giving them all up! I would tell my younger self not to be so shy and introverted!
    – Nishi x

  • These are amazing and very wise advice, Emily. I would tell my younger self to just be myself and don't try too hard…there's no point of trying to please everyone but myself.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  • This is so important! I recently saw this UK show called Mad Fat Diary and there was a scene where the therapist told the main character to tell the younger version of herself, a small child, all the horrible things she told the current version of herself. She immediately said she couldn't. So he said if you can't tell a child these things, why would you ever hurt yourself by telling them to you? So I think it's great that your exercise involves telling yourself positive and constructive things. It's a good reminder to treat yourself well at any age.

    xx Yasmin

  • I love these posts & really enjoyed writing one of my own, you're right though if you knew all of this, it would be pretty boring!


  • Firstly, Emily, your photo. I can’t. SO CUTE!!! Haha.

    Also you and Matt met at 18!?! That’s adorable! Awww I can really relate to number 4 – I moved to a primary school 4 months before I was going to start up at a new high school and it was so hard, but high school was amazing afterwards (and even more so in comparison to the other school :P). NUMBER 6 – ME TOO! I need to start pursuing my hobbies again. And I feel like 10 is so true, for all of us.

    One thing I would tell my younger self? You will move around a lot, and although you always loved it, one move will be really hard – but it made you so much stronger and all your travels have given you great stories…and a weird accent πŸ˜›

    I LOVED this post, Emily! Missed you and your blog <3


  • I would say you're far more than a 'fairly decent' person, you're wonderful Emily! You've listed some really sweet points in this post and many of which could apply to any age/stage of life πŸ™‚ I especially loved number one, and number 10 is spot on.


  • What a lovely list! So so true that one always can improve! I listened to this speech the other day where the person questioned why we are always updating our phones/upgrading our homes but never ourselves? And it was a lovely reflection and so true! Why are we so bad at bettering ourselves?! Love post! Xx


  • This is such a lovely post and one that I have been thinking of doing for a while. It is great to reflect and look back – also you are more than 'fairly decent' darling!!

    Charlotte x

  • This is so lovely! Number 1 is my favourite, being grateful for what we have is really important. We have our family, our parents, our loved ones, our health, money, roof above our head and food to eat. We are really lucky and we must be so grateful! πŸ™‚


  • This is so lovely! Number 1 is my favourite, being grateful for what we have is really important. We have our family, our parents, our loved ones, our health, money, roof above our head and food to eat. We are really lucky and we must be so grateful! πŸ™‚


  • I love this post!! I love number one! So true!
    Darriyanβ™‘ | http://www.darriyancateland.co.uk

  • Kay

    This is such a heartfelt, beautifully written post, hun! There are so many things I wish I could tell my younger self, and I can relate to so much of what you've said, also. At the same time, I feel like there is no point beating yourself up over past mistakes and missed opportunities. It is what it is, and life is just a constant learning curve. As long as we can learn from those mistakes, and improve going forward, that is all that matters. πŸ™‚ I hope you're well, my darling! x


  • Really great advises, so well written. There are so many things I would tell my younger self among the ones you've cited, 2, 6, 9 and 10. Maybe someone that needs it can read you post now and get something good from it.
    I've been thinking about doing a post like this. It's nice to look back and how much we have grown and I hope we continue to do that. πŸ™‚
    Sauniya | Find Your Bliss β™‘

  • I LOVE this post! I find it so relateable, growing up I was always in a daze or felt like I didn't fit in, but it's all working out now πŸ™‚ I loved reading books too and it'll always be one of my greatest hobbies. I wish I could play the piano too, I've brought myself a keyboard but I get tied down with Uni work/life and forget what I learnt. I would tell myself never to give up! xx

    Velvet Blush

  • Such great and wise advice. Really enjoyed reading this. Thanks for sharing!

    Face to Curls | http://facetocurls.com

  • Such a great post! I especially love the part about being curious πŸ™‚


  • This was a great concept for a post, there's so much I would tell my younger self as well. I would tell myself to be grateful as you said especially, I didn't realise how good I had it growing up.