WHY WE SHOULD ALL BE BAD BLOGGERS

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Blogging is hard work. Whether you are a full time blogger, living and breathing your craft, or you do it as much as you can, juggling your little space on the internet alongside work, children and just life. I’m sure that I’m not alone when I say that as a blogger, I don’t think you ever really switch off. With a ‘normal’ job, a lot of the time (career depending), you can leave your work at the door and focus on meaningless things, perhaps what you’ll have for dinner or what Netflix show you’ll start. But with blogging your mind is always ticking, always sifting through ideas or lists of what you have to do for your latest posts. You can be the most organised of bloggers with scheduled posts up until March but I’d hazard a guess that you are still always thinking.

Before blogging, I still loved taking photographs. The difference was that I took them for a very different reason. I took them because to be quite honest, I was scared of forgetting. I wanted to preserve as much memories as I could. And it’s a cliche but yes, I wanted to be able to sift through them when I was old and be able to be transported back to that time and place. I didn’t particularly care if it was a bit wonky, I took the photo quickly and almost carelessly. For blogging, it’s so much more intense. For one, I take a lot more photos as my theory is that the more photos I take, the more likely one will be perfect. But I also take them like a blogger: I reposition and adapt so the photo will look its best. Because obviously, when I write up the post or uploading to instagram, I want it to look good.

“With blogging your mind is always ticking, always sifting through ideas.”

This is all fine, but when you are applying this concept to a lot of situations, it can be exhausting. For example, recently I took my boyfriend to Barcelona as a surprise for his Birthday (more on that soon!). When we entered the hotel room , it kind of saddened me that almost instantly, he stepped to the side so I could take photos of the room at it’s very best. This was his birthday surprise and he was so excited yet he held himself back for me. And I’ve no doubt he does that automatically in numerous situations, whenever we are out to dinner somewhere particularly nice, he’s almost now trained to wait until photos are taken before he can tuck in.

So it was this, to be honest, that got me thinking. I feel like there is forever this inner battle. We’ve all had that thought: “Oh that would look so good on the blog!” but should we always entertain that thought and reach for the camera? Perhaps not.

This is why I think we should all, from time to time, embrace the idea of being a ‘Bad Blogger.’ Which is sort of ironic really because you aren’t really being bad at all. I think we should all try and fight the itch to ‘blog about it’ when we are in certain places or situations. No, there isn’t anything wrong with doing so, we all went the best for our blogs at the end of the day. But when a lot of our lives are taken up by blogging, sometimes we need to shove our carefully crafted corners to the back of our minds and concentrate on the here and now. I’ve tried to start doing this more and I urge you to give it a go. It’s refreshing. There is actually something quite nice about soaking everything up in the moment and not have a physical memory, it sort of feels more special. Whether it’s a delicious brunch with some girlfriends or digging straight into that new Urban Decay palette without waiting for the lighting to be right for photos. The world will not stop spinning if you allow yourself these moments.

“There is actually something quite nice about soaking everything up in the moment.”

And when you aren’t searching for the part of that park in London that will look best on Instagram, you notice the smaller, more imperfect parts that you usually might disregard because “it wouldn’t look right.” And you know what? When not in a photo or scrutinised by your ‘blogger mind’, they’re actually quite beautiful too.

If being a bad blogger means that my beautiful plate of food doesn’t go cold because I’m fussing over moving everything out of the vicinity to get the perfect flat lay or that I sit back with my boyfriend and enjoy a sunset on the beach, then I think I can do it.

Because to be perfectly honest, it actually sounds quite nice.

I know this weeks post is a little different to usual but I really wanted to just write. While there are no pretty pictures, I hope I’ve still given you something to think about. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Emily x

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  • Completely agree with this post, lovely read! I prefer to eat my food and sit with my boyfriend too!

    Lauren x | http://www.huggled.co.uk/

  • I agree. We can be whatever type of blogger we like and there really should be no defining. WHat is good to one is bad to another and thats what I love..blogging is personal and we have a lot of freedom to choose what we share and dont and what we do and dont do.

  • Totally agree! I had that thought earlier this year as me and grandad went for lunch. Although it was the most instagramable food ever, I just wanted to enjoy it with my grandad
    Great post hun. Hope you have a good week!

    Littlekaatie.com

  • Totally agree! I had that thought earlier this year as me and grandad went for lunch. Although it was the most instagramable food ever, I just wanted to enjoy it with my grandad
    Great post hun. Hope you have a good week!

    Littlekaatie.com

  • I know exactly what you mean.. It's so easy to get wrapped up in trying to take the perfect photo instead of fully enjoying the moment. I need to make a more conscious effort to put the perfect photo second. x

    Small&Blonde♥

  • I was nodding my head throughout this entire post! I LOVE this concept of being a "bad blogger", which in turn will allow us to enjoy our surroundings a little bit more. I've really been trying to work on this, keeping my mind in the moment and just enjoying it. Thank you for being so grounded and REAL! XX

  • Great post Hun, I think I am kind of a bad blogger anyway haha I always get half way through my food then go "Oh crap I forgot to take a photo" haha but I know what your saying as my husband does the same thing when we go somewhere "Do you need to take a photo of this sign before we go in" I think we need to make times for ourselves and maybe not overshare everything if that makes sense!

    Nicole xx | http://www.nicolesbeautybabble.com

  • You're right! Blogging can take over very easily, it can be hard to turn off a blogging brain off but I find that if I don't I end up getting burnt out!

  • This is a great post and I completely agree – sometimes you have to take off the blogger hat and just enjoy life as it happens!

    Emma | http://www.fluffandfripperies.com

  • This was a great read, lovely reflections! Always coming up with posts and things to them is difficult and it is exhausting. And as you say, it's sort of a 24/ work! So taking breaks every now and then is so important!! Xx

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  • I have been doing this which is why you don't see me as active on social medias anymore. Honestly I am feeling extremely burned out so hopefully taking a step back will help me feel passionate about blogging again.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  • Great post hun! I completely agree with this! I enjoyed reading so much!

    Darriyan♡
    http://www.darriyancateland.co.uk

  • You've definitely given me something to think about ! I can definitely relate to how you felt in the hotel for your boyfriends birthday because recently me and my girlfriend went away and the first thing we did was take photos of everything but actual the most enjoyable day was the one when i'd forgotten my camera and could notice all the little things 🙂

    lots of love, Marianne xxx

    http://www.dontburstmybubble.co.uk/

  • Kay

    This is such a fab, and a very true post, hun! Honestly, I LOVE blogging more than anything but I try not to take it too seriously… I do it when I have time, and like you said, it can be difficult especially with a full time job. I try not to obsess about it and still separate it from my personal life. <3 I just wish I had more time for blogging! <3

    Kay
    http://www.shoesandglitter.com/

  • I love this post, I feel like thinking about blogging too much takes the fun out of why you started in the first place, I used to love buying makeup for the sake of it and sometimes I feel like now I just buy for the sake of my blog rather than because I enjoy it!

    Lauren Ashleigh xx

  • I had to giggle when you said your boyfriend stepped aside. People I'm with that don't blog do the same. LOL Everything is a shot! I think within this last year, I've calmed down a lot with picture taking and documenting things. And just ENJOYING LIFE"S MOMENTS! This post was so good!
    http://www.averysweetblog.com/

  • Loved the post! So true!
    Dora http://www.BangsBang.com

  • I do think with an emphasis on picture perfect photos that you can tend to spend a lot of time worrying about them, rather than getting on with the content. I try not to worry if they're not perfect or if I don't get to take a picture of everything, plus with my food I'm always more concerned about scoffing it down anyway haha 🙂

    Velvet Blush

  • Loved that article, I love your writing! Thanks for this great post! xo, Sophia from http://www.sistersandglitters.com

  • You hit the nail on the head. Most days I forget to be a good blogger so I am usually bad.

  • Love this post. I'm guilty of being a bad blogger and only remember to snap my food when I'm halfway through it! x

  • This is a great post and I can totally relate to everything you say, because I am the same! I love taking photos and I've loved it as long as I can remember, I have so many folders full with photos and before I didn't really care about the perfection and now I take over 10 photos just to get one good one. We shouldn't put that much pressure on us, but enjoy the moment more! We blog, because we love doing it, we shouldn't let it put pressure on us, in the end it should be fun to do!

    Ela BellaWorld

  • Love your blog, your style is so fresh and I got so much inspirations from your posts, I really love it!
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    Love, Laura xx
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  • This is all so true! I saw a pic the other day and it had 100's of people with their phones in the air capturing a celebrity or something, then focuses on one very old lady who had no phone and was just living in the moment. It said it all. We are living in a world consumed by social media! X

    ♥ Carly Susanne – A Beauty & Lifestyle Blog

  • i love your post!

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  • I can relate to this, Emily. A bit sad that something that is meant to be fun can also stress us. To be a bad blogger isn't a bad idea at all. In fact there is something authentic, realistic and more genuine about it.

    http://missymayification.blogspot.co.uk

  • You've made such a good point in this post Emily – blogging is meant to be a fun process and not something that stresses us all out! Living in the moment is so important, 'capturing it for later' should be a secondary thought 🙂

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

  • I'm such a "bad blogger" too often haha. I hate asking friends to wait until I can take a picture of the food. I did it today and I was like this picture is still not good enough to share. You kind of have to pick your battles and decide when it's best to take your blogger hat off.

    xx Yasmin
    http://banglesandbungalows.com

  • You totally nailed it! Blogging should not feel pressured. Sometimes we have to take time for ourselves and our families and this is something I am very mindful about and I make sure to not get so consume with blogging and social media. It's nice ti take a step back sometimes and regroup.

    Face to Curls | http://facetocurls.com

  • What a great post! You got my attention from the title and I really agree with what you've said. We do get caught up on a lot of the "aesthetics," but we seriously need to start living in the moment!

    Via Sora || Tackling One Bra-blem at a Time
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  • Great post, and I agree in believing that it's a good thing to sometimes just stop and live in the present. I started to digitally unplug more last year. It's good to not worry about taking a perfect shot at the perfect angle, and just see the beauty in some imperfections.
    FASHION TALES

  • I was reading and saying "yes, this!!!" in my head so many times!! Thank you sooooo much for this post & your honesty, sweetie. Blogging is incredible in so many ways which we won't list, we all know them. However, there is that "dark side" of being a blogger (or a "good" blogger) and the example from Barcelona you gave illustrated that very clearly. There were many occasions when I felt like my super supportive hubby would step away so a perfect photo could be taken, wait ages to start food so it could first be snapped or suffer through photo shoots. He's one amazing man. I was a bit too obsessed at one stage.
    THANKFULLY, something clicked, life happened and I saw clearly how important it is to enjoy that IG-perfect moment without snapping it and posting it on Instagram.
    We have taken many weekends with me not blogging/posting on socials or spending much time on the phone juggling it all. Every time that happens it definitely helps me to re-connect and kind of fall in love with blogging even more. I do not let myself to burn out or to be too consumed by it. Every day is a different story and a bit of a struggle, especially with thinking, like you mentioned. It's a constant brainstorming session, haha. BUT! Digital detox days + living in the moment are KEY things when it comes to actually living and enjoying your life. It doesn't make that blogger bad one bit. Makes them real. Makes them human 🙂
    LOVED this post to pieces <3
    xox Nadia
    http://www.mielandmint.com

  • Love this post! Lets all be bad bloggers haha x

    ♡ itsjessiejane ♡

  • Loved this post!! Being bad is good, right!?
    Lots of love from Mollie xxx | http://wwwtheperksofmolliequirk.blogspot.com

  • I could talk forever about this topic but I rather hold myself back because it would turn out into a novel, haha. I couldn't agree more with you and this post is something all bloggers should read and learn from. There are moments in my life when I think "this would make a perfect insta/blog photo" but hold myself back because I don't think it would be nice of me to start photographing the heck out of that place, product, item or whatever instead of being with whoever I am with. We, as bloggers, need to learn to hold ourselves back sometimes and just enjoy the moment as you said. But I guess it's harder to do than to say 🙂

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

  • i can completely relate as its my boyfriend who takes most of my images and gets tangled up in my blogging tantrums, it's so easy to lose yourself in the world of blogging these days. you have to keep reminding you're doing it because you love blogging!
    jen / enter my too faced giveaway x

  • Loved this post, you're great inspiration! xo, Sophia from http://www.sistersandglitters.com

  • This is so, so valid and something so relevant for all of us in our social media-centred world! I remember reading this quote once that said something along the lines of there is no harm in wanting to take photos to have memories of everything, but at the same time don’t let that take away from you actually being in or living in the moment! Although we all love looking at, or taking, a good food photo or pretty scenery photo every now and then there always has to be a balance 🙂 Loved this reminder of a post <3

    Raashi
    reflectionswithraa.blogspot.com.au